Beauty From Ashes Adoption Story

Jesus said, “The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is upon me because the Lord has anointed me to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes.”  

Recently I had the opportunity to talk with adoptive mom  Aimee French of Clifton Park, NY.  Aimee and her husband, Charlie, have 3 bio blessings:  Charlie Jr. age 23, Anna age 21, and Eli age 19.  They also have 3 awesome adopted sons from South Korea:  David, Isaac, and Daniel.

Aimee shared that after a heartbreaking miscarriage they felt God nudging them to grow their family through adoption.  In 2002 the French’s adopted David from South Korea after seeing his picture on the Rainbow Kids website.  Then in 2003 they also adopted Isaac from South Korea.  With these 2 successful adoptions the French’s stepped out again to adopt, this time a 9 year old girl from Ethiopia.  Aimee shared the painful experience of this particular adoption which ended in disruption.  The term disruption is used to describe  situations where a child is placed into the custody of an adoptive family with the intent to adopt but, due to a change of mind by the birth mother, birth father, or adoptive family, the adoption does not take place and the child is returned the birth parent, to foster care, or placement with new adoptive parents.The French family found themselves unprepared to meet the severe needs of a child who’d been abandoned by her birth father who’d promised to come back for her.  This little girl was vigilently waiting for her father to find her in addition to the fact that the trauma she’d experienced prior to the adoption made for a scary and unsafe situation for all involved.  Thankfully a family, trained and prepared to meet this child’s unique needs, stepped in to be the forever-family this girl needed.

Feeling like failures, the French’s decided they were done with adoption.  However, God was not done with them.  In 2006 another family was struggling with a 3 year old boy they’d adopted from South Korean.  He had no speech, PTSD, and needed to be re-parented.  The French’s did respite for this family as they agonized over not being able to meet this little boy’s needs.  In the end that family decided that, if Aimee and her husband would adopt the boy, they’d let him go.  The French’s, who were prepared to meet the toddler’s needs, adopted Daniel.  Their’s truly is a beauty from ashes story!

Aimee is passionate about families being prepared to meet the unique needs of the children they’re adopting.  She highly recommends the book “Weaver’s Craft” by Mary Hopkins-Best especially for families interested in adopting toddlers.  To hear more of Aimee’s story you can listen to the recorded radio interview dated 4/18/14.